Wednesday, January 28, 2009

Parenting & Children

These are just a few things that I have observed over the years through friends and family. I'm not trying to attack anyone or offend anyone, if you don't agree with me that is fine, you can even leave me a comment and tell me why or why not OR you can act like I never even wrote this blog. I won't get offended if your view{opinion} is different then mine.

In MY OPINION there are three types of parents & children.

{1} The 'Over-Protective' Parents:
These parents tend to shield {or protect} their children from everything. Pain, drugs, sex, language, etc. They shield them so well that their child looks for answers elsewhere and most become very rebellious and wind up doing the things their parents were trying to protect them from.

{2}The 'Laid-Back' Parents:
These parents often don't shield their children from anything. They would rather be their child's best friend then their parent. Their children can do 'no wrong' and are 'just finding themselves'. These children are typically more rude to those they are around and can become very rebellious as well. Their rebellion stems more from wanting their parents to 'be parents' and to set some boundaries, not just be another friend.

{3} The 'Just-Right' Parents:
These parents realize that they can't protect their child from everything. They give their child SOME freedom but they have set boundaries and they are always right there when their child 'falls'. They don't promote sex and drugs etc, but they don't try to hide the fact that those things DO EXIST and no matter what they say or do their child may still give them a try. These children typically have the best morals and are the most giving and considerate to those they are around.

Now I'm sure your thinking that I'm wrong. That's fine, you're entitled to your opinion as am I. I didn't say that you couldn't have good, rebellious or average kids in any of the three 'categories', I'm simply saying that these are the 'typical' outcomes that I have observed through my friends and family. I've had friends come from 'Over-Protective' parents that were and/or are good kids. I've also had friends come from 'Laid-Back' parents and they actually have some really good morals and are very sweet people. Then I've also had friends come from 'Just-Right' parents that were/are very rebellious and rude.

The point of all this is to say that you need to raise your children the way you, as parents, see fit for your child. It doesn't matter what other people say or what their opinions are... you are the one that will answer to God for your parenting. If you don't want your child to watch something because there may or may not be subliminal messages in it, then don't let them watch it, same goes for music and so on and so forth. If you want others opinion on how they are raising their children or why they won't allow certain things that's fine, get their opinion but then FORM YOUR OWN! It doesn't matter how spiritual or unspiritual you are, you need to do what's right for you and your family. In the end your child will ultimately decide how they're going to live and who they're going to be.
I do believe that society puts pressure on us all but I also believe that the final outcome of what your child chooses to do stems mainly from the type of parent you are. There are no 'Perfect Parents' out there, though I'm sure we all would like to be one.

My husband and I CHOOSE to raise our children in a God fearing home, going to church three+ times a week{health pending}, because that's what we believe and feel is right for our family. We won't protect them from everything because we can't. All we can do is pray that God will help guide us in our journey of parenting and that our children will grow up believing in God and have good morals. You don't have to believe in God, I will not push that on anyone, but I will ask you this.... what is the harm in believing there is something greater out there {ie. God} and find out there isn't, then not believing and finding out there is. You have a much higher price to pay without God.

I know I kind of went a little off topic that last paragraph but I felt the need to add that in there. Please leave me comments... I WANT to know your opinions.

Friday, January 23, 2009

Thursday, January 8, 2009

'Adventures In Shopping'

I didn't know that running one simple little errand with two small children could be so adventurous. 

I had to run to the store today for some milk, cereal & peanut butter. I was even able to park in the very first spot closest to the door & cart return. I figured it would be so easy to run in & out & get home, I never get that lucky.... I didn't this time either.

It started out great, I put Noah & his carseat in the basket & let Emily help me navigate through the store{she loves to push the cart}. Then we went to checkout. It wasn't busy so there were no lines, however Emily was starting to get hungry for lunch & spotted the candy. Of course she was picking some out trying to open them. I was able to get her attention onto something else & we were heading out the door. Now because Noah was in the cart the groceries had to go underneath on the rack. If you've ever been to Safeway then you know that there is a slight incline going into the parking lot & of course the cereal & peanut butter went rolling onto the ground. I thought "Great, there's a car coming right at us & if I let go of the cart Emily & Noah would be heading across the parking lot". Sooo... I reached out my foot & kicked the food to the curb in hopes that it would stop rolling. Luckily there was an employee gathering carts & she rushed over to help me. I picked up the food & made it to the car. I was putting Noah in the car while Emily stood between me & the cart, & what does she do.... she pushes the cart. I jump after it as it starts careening down the slight slope towards other cars. Thankfully I was able to catch it put it in the cart return & get Emily in the car without any more problems lol. That's just a little too much adventure in one shopping experience for me thank you. 

Ten Things I am Thankful For

I know it's a little late but I just saw that I was tagged lol, & it's never too late to be thankful for something.

1} My Heavenly Father.... he has blessed me & my family with so much throughout the years

2} My Salvation.... I thank God for sending His Son to die for me so that I can someday enjoy the beauties of Heaven while enjoying the life He has given me here on earth

3} My Husband.... I am truly blessed to have someone who loves me & is willing to serve God with me, I am proud to be his wife & to raise two beautiful children with him

4} My Children.... Two of the most beautiful blessings that God has given me, I just pray that Richard & I can raise them to have the desire to serve & worship our Lord

5} My Mom.... for raising me in a home that serves the Lord... it may not have been a perfect life but mom made sure we were in church every Sunday morning, evening & Wednesday night

6} My Home.... It may not be my dream home but God didn't have to give it too me in the first place

7} My Siblings.... It sure made childhood fun with a brother to pick on & a sister to fight with, I love them both very much

8} My Friends.... I think I have some of the greatest friends out there... I'm glad God brought you all into my life

9} My this church I have found salvation, love, hurt, friends but most of all I have found an extended family that I love

10} My Pastor.... he is human, he has & will make mistakes but he is the best Pastor I have known... He preachs from the KJV Bible & he doesn't sugarcoat a thing, which I absolutely love

I've Been Tagged

1. I AM... a servant of God
2. I WANT... a vacation with my family
3. I HAVE… more than I deserve
4. I KEEP... too many sweets in the house... it's not good for my figure hehe 
5. I WISH I COULD... keep my kids safe from the hurt in this world 
6. I HATE… spiders...ewe
7. I FEAR... losing my family
8. I HEAR... Noah cuing & Emily playing
9. I DON'T THINK... too much, it hurts
10. I REGRET... nothing, it has all made me who I am today 
11. I LOVE... the outdoors, especially the ocean
12. I AM NOT... perfect... I do make mistakes & I may offend you sometime...I'm sorry 
13. I DANCE... with my kids
14. I SING... in the car
15. I NEVER... have read my Bible all the way through...working on that one{prayfully this year}
16. I RARELY... get offended by things
17. I CRY WHEN I WATCH... sad movies... like last night, 'A Walk To Remember' so sad
18. I AM NOT ALWAYS... on time... I need to manage time better that's for sure{I hear its a Baptist thing lol} 
19. I HATE THAT... I let myself gain so much weight
20. I'M CONFUSED ABOUT... alot... just ask my husband

21. I NEED... to manage my time better, than maybe I can actually get together with my friends outside of church

I tag Aleshia.

Monday, January 5, 2009

2008 Three Words

Describe 2008 in three words{no more, no less}.

Here is my three word description:

Lots of Pain.

I tag Aleshia.